• New,  One Thing or Another Podcast

    One Thing or Another Podcast #55: Book Reviewer Terri Schlichenmeyer’s Summer Reading Suggestions

    I’ve had the pleasure of sharing Terri Schlichenmeyer’s syndicated book reviews for a number of years now. In our chat today we talk about her recommendations for this summer’s reading, whether it’s on a beach or in the bathtub! Fasten your headphones for another engaging conversation with ever-literate Terri, aka The Bookworm Sez. You can hear my previous conversations with her HERE and HERE.

    About Terri Schlichenmeyer


    The Bookworm is Terri Schlichenmeyer. Terri has been reading since she was 3 years old and she never goes anywhere without a book. She lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 13,000 books.

  • New

    Now Available! Open Secrets: A Maggie Dahl Mystery

    At long last it has arrived! The second book in the Maggie Dahl Mysteries series has just been released as an eBook on Amazon Kindle. The paperback is coming in a week or so, as well as wider distribution after 90 days as a Kindle Unlimited exclusive. For now you can get Open Secrets for just $4.99, or as a member of Kindle Unlimited. And you can read a six chapter sample FREE by just downloading it HERE from BookFunnel. Welcome back, Maggie! Lambertville has been waiting for another murder for you to solve.

    About ‘Open Secrets’

    Maggie Dahl returns in ‘Open Secrets.’ It’s been six months since the media circus surrounding the last murder Maggie solved, and a year since her beloved husband David died. The dust seems to have finally settled. Then one morning a customer walks in and asks Maggie to do her a favor.

    Soon a body is discovered on a rural New Jersey road. A body Maggie is sure belongs to a local author whose next book was rumored to reveal secrets not everyone wanted known. But were they enough to kill for? And who murdered the woman found in the woods? Maggie is determined to find out, even as her life continues its road back to normal, complete with the possibility of new love. Can she find the answers she seeks in the death of a local celebrity? And will love be part of her life once again when she least expects it?

    About ‘Black Cat White Paws’

    In Black Cat White Paws, recently widowed Maggie Dahl finds herself faced with challenges on all fronts: life alone in a new town, running a business she and her husband had dreamed of and started together, and now pursuing a killer. Her sister Gerri moves from Philadelphia to Lambertville, New Jersey, to support her sister and start a new life of her own. Together the women search for a murderer, helped in critical ways by their neighbor’s cat. A black cat with white paws. A cat whose independence sets it all in motion and sees it through to the end.

    Black Cat White Paws finds Maggie moving from New York City to Lambertville, an idyllic river town with artists, restaurants, incredible landscapes, and enough local characters to populate a murder mystery. Join Maggie, Gerri, Checks the cat, and a cast of colorful small town natives just as eager—and as shocked—to find a killer in their midst.

  • LGBTSR

    Book Review: In the Houses of Their Dead, by Terry Alford

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm Sez

    In the Houses of Their Dead” by Terry Alford
    c.2022, Liveright
    $27.95 320 pages

    You’re talking to yourself again.

    That’s okay: it helps sort your thoughts, calm your brain, and settle your mind. But you’re not just talking to yourself: it may sound funny but it’s comforting to have one-sided conversations with people who would’ve shared their valuable wisdom, if they were still alive. You talk to those who gone sometimes, and in “In the Houses of Their Dead” by Terry Alford, you’ll see how that’s a habit that’s been around awhile.

    Even for the early 1800s, Edwin Booth grew up in an unconventional household.

    His father was an alcoholic actor who was prone to eccentricity, and he forced young Edwin to become his traveling companion and handler when the boy was just twelve years old. Edwin’s mother had lost a number of her children to nineteenth-century diseases. His younger siblings – especially Asia and John Wilkes – were as melodramatic as their father. As you might expect, the family was drawn toward the new mania for spiritualism.

  • LGBTSR

    Savvy Senior: Is Skin Cancer Hereditary?

    You can listen to my interview with Savvy Senior’s Jim Miller here.

    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    Is skin cancer hereditary? My 63-year-old brother died of melanoma last year, and I’m wondering if I’m at higher risk.

    Younger Sister

    Dear Younger,

    While long-term sun exposure and sunburns are the biggest risk factors for melanoma – the deadliest form of skin cancer – having a sibling or parent with melanoma does indeed increase your risk, according to the Skin Cancer Foundation.

  • LGBTSR

    Book Review: LBGTQ Books for Kids

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm Sez

    LBGTQ Books for Kids
    c.2022, various publishers
    $14.99 – $17.99 various page counts

    Like every kid in the world, the one you love has a zillion questions.

    “Why” begins with ants and runs through zebras. “When” goes from astronauts to zoos. “Who” from Aunties to, well, you. So why not keep a few books around for the kiddoes, books that entertain and gently inform…

    Life is better when you have a friend, and in “Strong” by Rob Kearney & Eric Rosswood, illustrated by Nidhi Chanani (Little, Brown, $17.99) a guy named Rob has always been one of the strongest guys around. When he decides he wants to compete, he finds someone to work out with him and they fall in love – but when Rob goes to the competition, everybody whispers about him. Why does he look so strange? Four-to-six-year-olds will be glad to see that when the right kind of cheerleader arrives, looks don’t matter at all.

  • New

    Blinded by the Right

    I’ve had a Facebook group for LGBTQ older people for many years now (LGBTSr), as part of my website of the same name. One of the members told me he was leaving the group because he is afraid “they” will begin tracking us, and not because they want to sell us products and laxatives.

    I told him I was sorry to see him go, and that I would resist until my last breath. While fear is becoming pervasive among many of us who know it is a rational response to the hostilities we have known throughout our lives and that are daily returning with a vengeance, disguised as concern for parental rights and the defending of gender conformity, fear is something I refuse. Fear serves those who benefit from instilling it.

    I think about the aged among my peers. Simply being able to marry has meant we are not denied access to our loved ones. We are not erased when they die. We are not refused services (although the incidence of LGBTQ people going back into the closet when we need nursing home care is unspeakably heartbreaking). It is the simplest of dignities and the frailest of protections in a world that would prefer to offer us none.

    While Clarence Thomas is a cruel wretch, he is at least honest about what they plan to do. The lying reassurances from Alito and Kavanaugh (much like the lies some of them told in their confirmation hearings) remind me most of the way we calm animals before we euthanize them, assuring them that all will be okay as the needle goes in. Remove the blinders if you still have them on. Of course they intend to overturn marriage equality. Of course they intend to strip our rights, whether it’s the right to be intimate with the person we choose to be, or the right to have our children kept free from religious coercion.

    Part of their magic trick is to pummel the country with imaginary reason, while our society is dragged in their preferred direction one ruling at a time. They did not save us from a coup when they refused to do Trump’s dirty work. They are simply carrying it out themselves.

    There is nothing alarmist in saying what I see. Unfortunately millions and millions are sleep walking into a country many of us will not recognize in a few years, led by the feckless Joe Biden and a geriatric Democratic leadership that refuses to say it’s raining as their clothes soak through.

    And that is that.

  • LGBTSR

    Book Review: LBGTQ Books for Kids

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm Sez

    LBGTQ Books for Kids
    c.2022, various publishers
    $14.99 – $17.99  various page counts

    Like every kid in the world, the one you love has a zillion questions.

    “Why” begins with ants and runs through zebras. “When” goes from astronauts to zoos. “Who” from Aunties to, well, you. So why not keep a few books around for the kiddoes, books that entertain and gently inform…

    Life is better when you have a friend, and in “Strong” by Rob Kearney & Eric Rosswood, illustrated by Nidhi Chanani (Little, Brown, $17.99) a guy named Rob has always been one of the strongest guys around. When he decides he wants to compete, he finds someone to work out with him and they fall in love – but when Rob goes to the competition, everybody whispers about him. Why does he look so strange? Four-to-six-year-olds will be glad to see that when the right kind of cheerleader arrives, looks don’t matter at all.

  • Savvy Senior

    Savvy Senior: Is Skin Cancer Hereditary?

    You can listen to my interview with Savvy Senior’s Jim Miller here.

    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    Is skin cancer hereditary? My 63-year-old brother died of melanoma last year, and I’m wondering if I’m at higher risk.

    Younger Sister 

    Dear Younger,

    While long-term sun exposure and sunburns are the biggest risk factors for melanoma – the deadliest form of skin cancer – having a sibling or parent with melanoma does indeed increase your risk, according to the Skin Cancer Foundation.

  • Book Reviews,  LGBTSR

    Book Review: In the Houses of Their Dead, by Terry Alford

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm Sez

    In the Houses of Their Dead” by Terry Alford
    c.2022, Liveright
    $27.95  320 pages

    You’re talking to yourself again.

    That’s okay: it helps sort your thoughts, calm your brain, and settle your mind. But you’re not just talking to yourself: it may sound funny but it’s comforting to have one-sided conversations with people who would’ve shared their valuable wisdom, if they were still alive. You talk to those who gone sometimes, and in “In the Houses of Their Dead” by Terry Alford, you’ll see how that’s a habit that’s been around awhile.

    Even for the early 1800s, Edwin Booth grew up in an unconventional household.

    His father was an alcoholic actor who was prone to eccentricity, and he forced young Edwin to become his traveling companion and handler when the boy was just twelve years old. Edwin’s mother had lost a number of her children to nineteenth-century diseases. His younger siblings – especially Asia and John Wilkes – were as melodramatic as their father. As you might expect, the family was drawn toward the new mania for spiritualism.

  • Kapok

    Kapok Aging and Caregiver Resources: Coping with the Role Reversal when Caring for Aging Parents

    By Angelica Herrera Venson, DrPH, MPH

    The following excerpt is reprinted with permission from Kapok Aging and Caregiver Resources.

    The term role reversal often comes up when talking about caregiving. It’s a logical idea, right? Suddenly you’re the one telling your parents what they need to do, trying to cajole them into a doctor’s visit, or even helping them out in the bathroom.

    How do you cope with this role reversal when caring for aging parents?

    There are plenty of approaches that you can take to support yourself as a caregiver, including self-compassion techniques and learning to set boundaries.

    But, there’s something even more critical to talk about.

    To put it simply – caregiving isn’t a role reversal.

    Sure, the situation can feel like a role reversal at times, like when you’re trying to prevent yet another incontinence accident. Yet, there are also some clear differences, ones that need to considered.

  • Tired Old Queen at the Movies

    Steve Hayes’ Tired Old Queen at the Movies: Bette Davis in ‘Dark Victory’

    From Steve Hayes’ Tired Old Queen at the Movies (YouTube):

    Bette Davis gives an unforgettable performance as a woman on borrowed time, in her personal favorite of all her films, Edmund Goulding’s DARK VICTORY (’39). Costarring George Brent, Humphrey Bogart, Ronald Reagan and the refreshing Irish actress Geraldine Fitzgerald, in her screen debut, it’s a lush, romantic, melodrama that will keep you in tears and on the edge of your seat as you watch one of the legendary actresses do what seemingly nobody did better. Stream DARK VICTORY now! https://amzn.to/3wXKwDx