• Men's Health

    Being a man can be hazardous to your health

    Men and women are different in a lot of ways, that’s pretty self-evident, and some of the differences are unhealthy. For instance, men socialize in different ways and deal with stress more destructively, such as drinking too much or smoking. It’s not enough to make me wish I wasn’t a man, but at this age it’s time to really pay attention to these things. I’d rather have another year than another cocktail. From Times Live: Men, here is what you can do to improve your odds and your health.
    On June 22, science and tech magazine New Scientist reported that around 630,000 men die between the ages of 15 and 64 in Europe, compared with 300,000 women of the same age. Trends are similar in the US as well. Why? Experts cite bad lifestyle habits, such as smoking, drinking, and eating less healthfully, for example. Plus Alan White, lead author of The State of Men’s Health in Europe, published in July, told New Scientist that because men are socialised differently, they tend to react in more destructive ways when they find things difficult, such as becoming stressed, smoking, and drinking more. A big problem White cites is that many men lack services that could really come to their aid, such as health clinics open at times other than daytime working hours, or sporting activities available to men who work off-hours, such as restaurant workers or late-night taxi drivers, he said. If you’re male and have been neglecting your health, the first step is to start taking a personal interest in your health, especially preventative health, and then schedule an appointment with a doctor for a full physical examination. Talk about long-term health problems with your doctor, no matter how embarrassing or private, and be sure to ask questions about what tests and screenings are appropriate for your age, writes health website HealthDay.
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  • Latest

    Cops seek port-a-potty perp at Boulder yoga fest

    Imagine going into a port-a-potty stall, never a pleasant experience to begin with, and there’s a face staring up at you from the tank. That’s what happened in Boulder, Colorado, during a yoga festival. The suspect slipped away. From the HuffPost: DENVER (Reuters) – Police in Boulder, Colorado were searching on Tuesday for a man who hid inside the tank of a portable toilet at a yoga festival, startling a woman who was using the facility. The bizarre incident happened June 17 at the Hanuman Yoga festival in Boulder, a college town northwest of Denver. The woman, who was not identified by authorities, said when she lifted the toilet seat lid, she noticed something moving in the tank, according to a Boulder Police news release. The woman exited the toilet and asked a man who was standing nearby to check inside. The man told police he saw someone inside the tank covered with a tarp.
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    Gay sports league in Oklahoma City open to all

    There’s been some hand-wringing the last few years about how many, if any, straight people should be allowed to play on gay sports teams. A sports league in Oklahoma City has resolved that issue by welcoming everyone. From News OK: By Carrie Coppernoll 2
    Published: June 22, 2011
    Playing gay softball all started out as the biggest group effort ever to find our friend a date. This Sunday, we wrapped up our fifth year playing in the Sooner State Softball Association. Our team has a record as bad as the Chicago Cubs, but our friend has a boyfriend. Our team name this year was Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, a tribute to hubbub about straight players in gay softball leagues. The North American Gay Amateur Athletic Alliance, also known as NAGAAA, limits teams that enter the Gay Softball World Series to two straight players per team. Some organization officials didn’t want teams to bring in straight ringers. Like me. [SNIP] But at home, anyone can play, league Commissioner Jim Knox said.
    “We believe that opening our league up to fair-minded people and having them play together knocks down stereotypes for both our community and the straight community as well,” he said. After five years, the core of our team is still straight people. Most are married. Some have children. The league assigns us a few extra players to fill our rosters, and most of them are gay people we don’t know.
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  • Finances

    Seniors seeking alternatives as banks get out of reverse mortgage business

    From Daily Finance:

    Last week, Wells Fargo (WFC), the biggest name in the nation’s reverse mortgage market, announced that it was getting out of the business, citing concerns that housing prices could continue to erode further. That move followed in the footsteps of No. 2 reverse mortgage player Bank of America (BAC), which exited the business earlier this year. Combined, the two banking behemoths represented 43.6% of the reverse mortgage market, based on a 12-month trailing period ending in April, according to industry researcher Reverse Market Insight. But certified financial planners say it’s not the end of the world for cash-strapped seniors who want to stay in their homes. With financial finesse, in some situations, seniors may find non-bank solutions yield better results. John Lunde, president of Reverse Market Insight, doesn’t except a stampede of other reverse mortgage lenders will quit the business. He also notes that most of the other lenders hold much smaller slices of the market, with the exception of MetLife Bank, an affiliate of insurance behemoth MetLife (MET).
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    Lytro camera promises digital photography revolution

    A friend clued me into this, and I immediately tought of lgbtSr contributor KJOY. We’re both photographers (hers is on the professional side, mine’s a hobby). It’s a lot to digest about this new camera coming out, but something to keep a shutter – I mean eye – on. From PC World:

    With a new kind of camera, Lytro wants to remove the headaches of focus from digital photography. Lytro, a start-up based in the Silicon Valley, hopes to revolutionize the camera industry by bringing “light field” cameras to the market this year. This type of photography captures the color, intensity and direction of individual light rays, allowing the user to refocus the picture even after it has been taken. Speaking to the Wall Street Journal, Lytro’s founder and chief executive, Ran Ng, likened the technology to a multitrack audio recording, in which each instrument is recorded separately and mixed later. A blog post on Lytro demonstrates the concept with an interactive photo. Clicking anywhere on the picture changes the point of focus, causing other parts of the scene to blur into the background. A picture gallery shows more examples. Lytro also claims that its cameras work in low lighting without flash, and can produce 3D photos with a single lens. “We have something special here,” Ng wrote. “Our mission is to change photography forever, making conventional cameras a thing of the past.”
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  • Latest

    Pulitzer winning journalist Jose Antonio Vargas comes out – as illegal immigrant

    In a stunning confession that fits with his Pulitzer Przie-winning reporting, gay journalist Jose Antonia Vargas has come out as an undocumented immigrant – in the New York Times! From the New York Times: I decided then that I could never give anyone reason to doubt I was an American. I convinced myself that if I worked enough, if I achieved enough, I would be rewarded with citizenship. I felt I could earn it. I’ve tried. Over the past 14 years, I’ve graduated from high school and college and built a career as a journalist, interviewing some of the most famous people in the country. On the surface, I’ve created a good life. I’ve lived the American dream. But I am still an undocumented immigrant. And that means living a different kind of reality. It means going about my day in fear of being found out. It means rarely trusting people, even those closest to me, with who I really am. It means keeping my family photos in a shoebox rather than displaying them on shelves in my home, so friends don’t ask about them. It means reluctantly, even painfully, doing things I know are wrong and unlawful. And it has meant relying on a sort of 21st-century underground railroad of supporters, people who took an interest in my future and took risks for me.
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    Chicago gay activist Roger “R.J.” Chaffin dies at 59

    From CBS Chicago: CHICAGO (CBS) – A renowned businessman and community activist in Chicago’s gay community has died at the age of 59. Roger “R.J.” Chaffin died this past Friday after a short illness, the Windy City Times reported. Chaffin was inducted into Chicago’s Gay and Lesbian Hall of Fame in 1997. At that time, he was described as “one of Chicago’s most visible gay businesspersons for more than 25 years” who raised thousands of dollars for AIDS charities. Continue reading]]>

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    Transgender woman sentenced to prison in Idaho bomb plot


    From The Republic.com:
    PAYETTE, Idaho — An Idaho woman will serve at least three years in prison after she planted fake destructive devices at her trailer home, set fire to her truck then ran naked along a rural highway last summer to draw attention to her struggle as a transgender person. Catherine Carlson, 53, was sentenced Friday in 3rd District Court after being convicted of first-degree arson, unlawful possession of a bomb or destructive device, and using a hoax destructive device. She was also found guilty of a misdemeanor charge of indecent exposure. A Payette County jury convicted Carlson in April. The Argus Observer reported that Carlson sat quietly as Judge Susan Wiebe ordered her to serve a minimum of three years for each felony, to run concurrently, as part of a maximum 10-year sentence. She was also sentenced to serve 180 days for indecent exposure. Wiebe ordered Carlson to reimburse the county for $1,500 in emergency response costs.
    Carlson will get credit for time served since her arrest in July 2010. About 50 homes were evacuated last summer after firefighters responded to a bogus report of a trailer fire and found pipes near a propane tank. The pipes contained no explosives.
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  • Latest

    Residents despair in Puerto Rico as killings increase

    We were just in Old San Juan two weeks ago on a cruise. I wrote afterward about the rising number of murders of LGBT people (18 most recently, at the time of the posting). The young waitress at the tapas restaurant where we had dinner told us murders were on the increase and it worried her. From the New York Times: LOÍZA, P.R. — As people strolled past the Alambique liquor store here recently, the puddle of blood and the bullet-shattered storefront behind it scarcely merited a glance. Yet another young man had been shot. Yet another tally would be added to the record books. For Roberto Clemente, who lives down the street from the crime scene, such casual acceptance illustrates just how deeply Puerto Ricans have been shaken by the island’s murder wave. “Enough is enough,” said Mr. Clemente, 59, who works for the town doing cleanup duties, as he motioned toward the liquor store. “We live unsafely in our homes. The cops know who did what, but there are no witnesses. Even if you see who did it, you stay quiet.” Now plagued by a steadily worsening murder rate, more Puerto Ricans are second-guessing their evening plans, contemplating moving to the mainland and sending away for gun permits in larger numbers to protect themselves. And the police are rolling out new strategies they hope will bring things under control.
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    Kjoy'sLife in the Sr Lane


    PART II: Priding as an SR does not mean keeping our dignity! Hi all sweet lovelies! My great Pride 2011 story continues from the first post . . .


    So my first blog was all about dealing with getting past our SR phobias – weight, wrinkles, and wondering where our youth went. Okay, it’s fine to cling to the past to a point, but it’s better to cling to your Depends or pads and dance the night away! No really! We do not owe the young hotties anything! If anything they owe us and our amazing predecessors, a dance! THESE womyn and men are my heroines/heroes. And some are SOOOO sexy to this day! The boys and girls today have no idea what it took to give them such freedoms. Okay. I’m off the soapbox.


    Dancing is better than anti-depressants: Okay, I lied and I promised I wouldn’t. I lied. Get over it. Truth is even I take these even-out-your-life drugs (thank you Dr. Jacobson out of Northridge Hospital. You are da man!), but it’s because I don’t get out and let go and sweat the sh*t of life out! Dancing is one of the best drugs – ever!


    I don’t care if you dance in the living room with no one around, ballroom, tango, or do your country’s traditional moves, just do it. I LOVE to just turn on the jams at home and groove (sometimes dressed, sometimes not! TMI?). I’m lucky that my wife Corinne, and the dogs, often join me to shake-it to trance to rock n’ roll (Concrete Blonde is her constant pick). We just imagine we’re on a dance floor and go.


    Try it, you’ll like it: Don’t think of what ANYONE thinks on your dancing style (lgbtSr blogger, Rick Rose, is the KING of letting it go!). Once you get used to letting it jiggle and dangle, roll, etc. you’re ready to finalize your Pride experience. As I said, for us, it was Mickey’s hands-down (have no idea if that mean anything to the boys).




    Mickey’s is always hot: As Weho Pride winded down, and the parade ended, the hot bods were everywhere. They chose to unwind at Mickey’s.

    When we got to Mickey’s it was already packed, but since it was Pride, instead being a reason to go home early and watch “Golden Girls” and “Will & Grace,” we sashayed through the throngs of passersby to Mickey’s where the thong’d go-go boys were grinding it and the dance floor called my name. Dancing Nazi let it go: Corinne and I danced until sweating, which was great for the pores, and being that I’m still in mynopause and having hot flashes on a dance floor, it goes unnoticed. Loved it!


    SRs hot ‘n workin’ it: As I looked around me on the dance floor I smiled at all the SRs groovin’ it to Mickey’s great DJs. No matter our ‘vintage moves’ we were workin’ the floor, getting looks of interest, and more you naughty-ones! For a short time we were young again, and lovin’ it!


    Recovery: the morning after: The next a.m. Corinne started her workday way early, and though she thought to not going in, somehow she pulled it together and drove-off into early light of dawn. I curled-up with the dogs and went back to sleep. When I did get up, I immediately downed Advil, drank water, and ate a light breakfast. It was only then, as my body fell back into its slightly overweight shape, that I felt the tightness of my back, the ache of swelling feet, and then screamed when I looked in the mirror at my face with mashed make-up (I looked like Alice Cooper) staring back at me.


    After the initial shock, I observed my “goth-esque” mascara on top of ever-increasing lines, and smiled. “Damn that was fun!” Later on in the day, Corinne texted me the same sentiment. We agreed that, though we’ve aged and slowed down, we took on Pride as if prizefighters and knocked-it-out. And now looking at the pictures I can truly say we were not alone. All those SRs I’d seen and met? I guarantee they rocked-it into the morning light as we did with a smile. Maybe next year I’ll go to the tanning booth. But then, maybe not. Til’ next time: Forget your age and go for it! I’ve learned this later than I anticipated, and lovin’ every adventure!
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