-
NAACP panel on LGBT issues missing the B and the T
From Just Out: The NAACP is hosting its first-ever LGBT town hall Monday as part of its 102nd National Convention, The Advocate reports. “Black members of the LGBT community share a common history and continued struggle to address issues of bigotry, yet their identities, talents, and leadership are oftentimes diminished because of homophobia and fear of physical violence,” said Benjamin Todd Jealous, NAACP president and CEO, according to Out Smart magazine. “It is important that we address these issues head on.” But many are pointing out the bitter irony in the fact that an event meant to illuminate marginalized queer identities does not include panelists representing a transgender or bisexual perspective.
]]> -
Interview: Bertis Shankle, Manager of Volunteer Programs for SAGE
I had the pleasure of meeting Bertis Shankle, the Manager of Volunteer Programs for SAGE, when I took their volunteer orientation a couple months ago. He conducts these sessions every second Wednesday at the LGBT Community Center in Greenwich Village. I’m a big believer in the mission of SAGE and in creating visibility for older LGBT people in general, and was delighted when he agreed to this interview. – Mark McNease Not everyone knows what SAGE is. Could you say a little about the organization and its mission? BS: SAGE stands for Services and Advocacy for GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender) Elders. The mission is encapsulated in the title, to serve the older adult LGBT community through advocacy and services. We’re here to enrich the lives of this very important population. You gave us a bit of personal history at the orientation. I know you started out as a volunteer yourself. What brought you to SAGE? BS: I had heard about SAGE from several different people. My then-partner had suggested I do volunteer work just after 9/11, which allowed me to be more flexible with working, but kept me involved. I was his caregiver. He had Hodgkin’s disease and was doing chemotherapy. We traveled a lot and he slept about 12 hours a day. So I had lots of time to give. We parted ways just as my tenure began as the “Thursday Coffee Boy.” I worked my new job schedule around my regular gig at SAGE. I did that for a year, until my work schedule changed and I went to regular Monday through Friday. I also had a regular Lend-a-Hand assignment, which lasted a year and a half, until my Friend at Home passed away. (He already had a Friendly Visitor who did all the paperwork, so I got to visit regularly and enjoy Henry’s company just like a Friendly Visitor.) You’re now the Manager of Volunteer Programs. What was the progression from making coffee early on to being in the position you have now? BS: I came into the office three years ago to see the Volunteer Coordinator, Ryan. I had done sporadic events volunteering after my other two assignments ended. So I was just dropping in to see what was the next need. He said he was leaving to further his fine arts studies, and I should consider applying for his full-time, paid position. I considered it about 20 seconds and threw my hat into the ring. I had always loved it here. I’m going to assume that managing volunteers is rewarding and also challenging. What are some of the realities of your job (are people reliable, for instance, do you get many cancellations, do you have to maintain a steady new supply of volunteers)? BS: You assume correctly about rewards and challenges. I often refer to myself as the center of all love in the universe. I help people find positions they can really enjoy, so the volunteers thank me. The people that are receiving the benefits of their services thank me. And then the work gets done, and my bosses and coworkers thank me. The rewards are not small in that way. But, yes, it has its challenges. It’s the nature of volunteering to get more cancellations than you would with a regular paid job. People have busy lives outside of our walls. I walked in those shoes, so I know that it can happen. We have to roll with the punches. I try to build in redundancy, but some of my projects I oversee are in Chelsea and my office is at the LGBT Community Center, so I sometimes wish I had a twin so I could be at two places at one time. But it runs pretty smoothly.
For people looking to volunteer, what is some basic advice you would give them? BS: Look to do what you love. A volunteer who is happy in her role will be of the best use to the organization they are hoping to serve. Rule number one of volunteering in my view is: Have a good time. I worked for a while in a recruitment advertising agency that tried to find the right person for every job, and it looked deep into each position to find the triggers that would attract the right candidate. I have to think on those terms, a little… but at a hundred miles an hour around here. One thing I heard from others at the orientation, and that was a driving idea behind this site (lgbtSr.com) is that lgbt people over 50 often feel as if they’re being disappeared. Is there anything you could say to address that sense of diminishment as we age? BS: That’s totally understandable. The gay magazines have youthful cover models, mostly shirtless, dancing, tanning, swimming. And mostly white males. How much of our lives is that, even at that age? How many of us ever fit that body type? So much more of what we are as a group is under-represented. But it’s also kind of like a wedge of cheese sitting in the produce aisle and crying, I’m so alone. If he were in the cheese aisle, he’d have a totally different experience. We are the cheese aisle for LGBT mature adults. Is that cheesy? That people feel diminished says they need an organization like SAGE and then need to work to find their niche here. We’re not all things to all people, but there are programs and groups and classes that address all types of people and the full range of interests. Not to knock the youth, we could all learn from one another. We do a lot of intergenerational programming. What I’m hoping is that people are going to have a better chance of finding like-minded people when they get involved at SAGE. Lastly, what’s your hope for SAGE in the future? BS: There are lots of great additions to our roster of services coming in the near future. Our executive director, Michael Adams, is a real visionary. But the best answer for what the future of SAGE needs can be boiled up into one word. You. Everyone has something to contribute. Not just as volunteers. Just by being a part of SAGE events, you add to the enjoyment. If you have needs, like social services or counseling, we grow as we serve our community. The more lives we touch, the more we are able to do. We just had an event out on Cherry Grove to honor a longtime SAGE Volunteer Harold Seeley. He has done the decorations for our socials for about 22 years and been involved in the community for many years more than that. Harold is a leader, but first, Harold was a joiner. He came to an event, he rolled up his sleeves, he got involved. And his life has been so rich because he dared to do something. Harold is my hero right now. He’s battling some health issues, but he’s never put down his glue gun. You should have seen him out there on the island, among his people. He’s the reason we exist. I’m especially inspired right now. It’s a great time to be part of this community. Don’t get me started! LGBT older people tend to experience higher rates of social isolation than their heterosexual counterparts, and they are more likely to be single, to live alone and to not have children or close family members to rely on for care giving. SAGE programs combat this isolation and help LGBT older people find support and services to improve their quality of life. Some of the programs we offer to LGBT older people in New York City include the Friendly Visitor program (where we match volunteers who pay regular visits to people who may be homebound); Lend-a-Hand visits (shorter-term, task-oriented errands and escorts); events that bring people out to mingle, classes to enrich people’s lives; and other programs to meet specific needs like care giving, job readiness and social services needs.]]> -
lgbTravel: A summer weekend at Rainbow Mountain
By Mark McNease We just got back from our third long weekend at Rainbow Mountain Resort in East Stroudsburg, Pennsylvania. I have to say this quickly became a favorite vacation spot after our first visit there in the spring of last year. We returned for a fun-filled, packed Halloween, and now we’ve had our first taste of summer by the pool with an interesting group of lgbt fellow travelers. There are several things I like about this longstanding (since 1981) lgbt-owned-and-operated getaway. One, it’s an older crowd. That may have something to do with the age of the resort itself, or that we often have more disposable income, or simply that we have this lovely place in the Pocono mountains where being lgbt and over 50 is a beautiful thing – just what we contend here at lgbtSr! I also enjoy spending time in an environment where everyone is lgbt, with a few exceptions. This is not about being exclusionary – some of my very best friends are straight. But let’s face it, a long weekend with mature, come-as-you-are gay men and lesbians who are comfortable in our bodies and minds is a refreshing, re-energizing thing to do now and then. We stopped for lunch at the Landmark Cafe, where the staff is friendly and the eats are good (and it is the sort of place you’d say ‘eats’). Then on to Rainbow Mountain, which recently had a change of owners, but the flavor hasn’t been altered. The two men who bought it from long-time owner Angelo and his partner were both regulars there, working the karaoke events, and are keeping things familiar while making upgrades. Frank and I stayed once again in deluxe room 102 – private bathroom, TV, mini-fridge, and a painting on the wall that I’ve only seen in my late mother’s piano teaching room (a woman in a red dress at a black grand piano). A little spooky but it adds to the experience. We went for a drive the first day and stopped at a mountain road ice cream stand, where there on the window was a rainbow decal. We had dinner that night at the lodge, where dinner and breakfast come with the package. They offer a third night (either Thursday or Sunday) on summer weekends, in case you want to get there earl y or head back Monday, but food’s not included with the extra day. The Pocono Mountains have plenty of attractions. We went back to Mount Airy Casino on Saturday for a couple hours of penny slots. There’s The Candle Shoppe of the Poconos, that has the added attraction of being haunted. You can arrange for a Segway tour if that’s to your liking (www.poconosssegwaytours.com) or just hang out by the pool with the other guests, enjoy some cocktails at the cabana (or not, some of us tea-total, they have something for eveyryone). The area is spectacularly beautiful and this is truly at the top of my list as a twice-a-year (I could do three) escape to peace and serenity. I can’t say enough about Rainbow Mountain Resort and if you’re anywhere near the area or can plan a nice relaxing stay there, I think you’ll love it as much as we do.]]>
-
Archie Comics' gay Kevin Keller to marry
I was an Archie fan as a kid. I can’t imagine how much it would have meant to this gay boy to see myself in a comic book, let alone see the unthinkable: a gay male character with a husband, as Archie’s Kevin Keller will be portrayed in the future. It really does touch my heart, knowing what an impossibility this was to a child like me in 1960s Indiana. Amazing. See link below.
Now Archie Comics Brings Us Gay Marriage Bleeding Cool Comic Book, Movies and TV News and Rumors
Marriage equality comes to New York on 30th anniversary of AIDS epidemic
I just read an excellent article making a connection I haven’t seen elsewhere: the coincidence and importance of marriage equality coming to New York in the same year as the 30th anniversary of the AIDS plague. It contends, among other things, that marriage will be an important step in stemming the spread of HIV, especially for lgbt people of color. A must read and a needed perspective. See link below.
Six hours into equality in New York State
It’s just 6:00 am and I’m waking up in the Poconos, reading about the midnight ceremonies that tolled the bells for equality in New York. It brings with it a feeling of emancipation and a realization that the yoke of discrimination, worn so long it no longer presses down, is most noticeable when it’s gone. Congratulations to the happy couples and everyone who helped get them there. From the New York Times: