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    NAACP panel on LGBT issues missing the B and the T

    From Just Out: The NAACP is hosting its first-ever LGBT town hall Monday as part of its 102nd National Convention, The Advocate reports. “Black members of the LGBT community share a common history and continued struggle to address issues of bigotry, yet their identities, talents, and leadership are oftentimes diminished because of homophobia and fear of physical violence,” said Benjamin Todd Jealous, NAACP president and CEO, according to Out Smart magazine. “It is important that we address these issues head on.” But many are pointing out the bitter irony in the fact that an event meant to illuminate marginalized queer identities does not include panelists representing a transgender or bisexual perspective.
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  • Interviews

    Interview: Bertis Shankle, Manager of Volunteer Programs for SAGE

    I had the pleasure of meeting Bertis Shankle, the Manager of Volunteer Programs for SAGE, when I took their volunteer orientation a couple months ago. He conducts these sessions every second Wednesday at the LGBT Community Center in Greenwich Village. I’m a big believer in the mission of SAGE and in creating visibility for older LGBT people in general, and was delighted when he agreed to this interview. – Mark McNease Not everyone knows what SAGE is. Could you say a little about the organization and its mission? BS: SAGE stands for Services and Advocacy for GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender) Elders. The mission is encapsulated in the title, to serve the older adult LGBT community through advocacy and services. We’re here to enrich the lives of this very important population. You gave us a bit of personal history at the orientation. I know you started out as a volunteer yourself. What brought you to SAGE? BS: I had heard about SAGE from several different people. My then-partner had suggested I do volunteer work just after 9/11, which allowed me to be more flexible with working, but kept me involved. I was his caregiver. He had Hodgkin’s disease and was doing chemotherapy. We traveled a lot and he slept about 12 hours a day. So I had lots of time to give. We parted ways just as my tenure began as the “Thursday Coffee Boy.” I worked my new job schedule around my regular gig at SAGE. I did that for a year, until my work schedule changed and I went to regular Monday through Friday. I also had a regular Lend-a-Hand assignment, which lasted a year and a half, until my Friend at Home passed away. (He already had a Friendly Visitor who did all the paperwork, so I got to visit regularly and enjoy Henry’s company just like a Friendly Visitor.) You’re now the Manager of Volunteer Programs. What was the progression from making coffee early on to being in the position you have now? BS: I came into the office three years ago to see the Volunteer Coordinator, Ryan. I had done sporadic events volunteering after my other two assignments ended. So I was just dropping in to see what was the next need. He said he was leaving to further his fine arts studies, and I should consider applying for his full-time, paid position. I considered it about 20 seconds and threw my hat into the ring. I had always loved it here. I’m going to assume that managing volunteers is rewarding and also challenging. What are some of the realities of your job (are people reliable, for instance, do you get many cancellations, do you have to maintain a steady new supply of volunteers)? BS: You assume correctly about rewards and challenges. I often refer to myself as the center of all love in the universe. I help people find positions they can really enjoy, so the volunteers thank me. The people that are receiving the benefits of their services thank me. And then the work gets done, and my bosses and coworkers thank me. The rewards are not small in that way. But, yes, it has its challenges. It’s the nature of volunteering to get more cancellations than you would with a regular paid job. People have busy lives outside of our walls. I walked in those shoes, so I know that it can happen. We have to roll with the punches. I try to build in redundancy, but some of my projects I oversee are in Chelsea and my office is at the LGBT Community Center, so I sometimes wish I had a twin so I could be at two places at one time. But it runs pretty smoothly.
    For people looking to volunteer, what is some basic advice you would give them? BS: Look to do what you love. A volunteer who is happy in her role will be of the best use to the organization they are hoping to serve. Rule number one of volunteering in my view is: Have a good time. I worked for a while in a recruitment advertising agency that tried to find the right person for every job, and it looked deep into each position to find the triggers that would attract the right candidate. I have to think on those terms, a little… but at a hundred miles an hour around here. One thing I heard from others at the orientation, and that was a driving idea behind this site (lgbtSr.com) is that lgbt people over 50 often feel as if they’re being disappeared. Is there anything you could say to address that sense of diminishment as we age? BS: That’s totally understandable. The gay magazines have youthful cover models, mostly shirtless, dancing, tanning, swimming. And mostly white males. How much of our lives is that, even at that age? How many of us ever fit that body type? So much more of what we are as a group is under-represented. But it’s also kind of like a wedge of cheese sitting in the produce aisle and crying, I’m so alone. If he were in the cheese aisle, he’d have a totally different experience. We are the cheese aisle for LGBT mature adults. Is that cheesy? That people feel diminished says they need an organization like SAGE and then need to work to find their niche here. We’re not all things to all people, but there are programs and groups and classes that address all types of people and the full range of interests. Not to knock the youth, we could all learn from one another. We do a lot of intergenerational programming. What I’m hoping is that people are going to have a better chance of finding like-minded people when they get involved at SAGE. Lastly, what’s your hope for SAGE in the future? BS: There are lots of great additions to our roster of services coming in the near future. Our executive director, Michael Adams, is a real visionary. But the best answer for what the future of SAGE needs can be boiled up into one word. You. Everyone has something to contribute. Not just as volunteers. Just by being a part of SAGE events, you add to the enjoyment. If you have needs, like social services or counseling, we grow as we serve our community. The more lives we touch, the more we are able to do. We just had an event out on Cherry Grove to honor a longtime SAGE Volunteer Harold Seeley. He has done the decorations for our socials for about 22 years and been involved in the community for many years more than that. Harold is a leader, but first, Harold was a joiner. He came to an event, he rolled up his sleeves, he got involved. And his life has been so rich because he dared to do something. Harold is my hero right now. He’s battling some health issues, but he’s never put down his glue gun. You should have seen him out there on the island, among his people. He’s the reason we exist. I’m especially inspired right now. It’s a great time to be part of this community. Don’t get me started! LGBT older people tend to experience higher rates of social isolation than their heterosexual counterparts, and they are more likely to be single, to live alone and to not have children or close family members to rely on for care giving. SAGE programs combat this isolation and help LGBT older people find support and services to improve their quality of life. Some of the programs we offer to LGBT older people in New York City include the Friendly Visitor program (where we match volunteers who pay regular visits to people who may be homebound); Lend-a-Hand visits (shorter-term, task-oriented errands and escorts); events that bring people out to mingle, classes to enrich people’s lives; and other programs to meet specific needs like care giving, job readiness and social services needs.]]>

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    lgbTravel: A summer weekend at Rainbow Mountain

    By Mark McNease We just got back from our third long weekend at Rainbow Mountain Resort in East Stroudsburg, Pennsylvania. I have to say this quickly became a favorite vacation spot after our first visit there in the spring of last year. We returned for a fun-filled, packed Halloween, and now we’ve had our first taste of summer by the pool with an interesting group of lgbt fellow travelers. There are several things I like about this longstanding (since 1981) lgbt-owned-and-operated getaway. One, it’s an older crowd. That may have something to do with the age of the resort itself, or that we often have more disposable income, or simply that we have this lovely place in the Pocono mountains where being lgbt and over 50 is a beautiful thing – just what we contend here at lgbtSr! I also enjoy spending time in an environment where everyone is lgbt, with a few exceptions. This is not about being exclusionary – some of my very best friends are straight. But let’s face it, a long weekend with mature, come-as-you-are gay men and lesbians who are comfortable in our bodies and minds is a refreshing, re-energizing thing to do now and then. We stopped for lunch at the Landmark Cafe, where the staff is friendly and the eats are good (and it is the sort of place you’d say ‘eats’). Then on to Rainbow Mountain, which recently had a change of owners, but the flavor hasn’t been altered. The two men who bought it from long-time owner Angelo and his partner were both regulars there, working the karaoke events, and are keeping things familiar while making upgrades. Frank and I stayed once again in deluxe room 102 – private bathroom, TV, mini-fridge, and a painting on the wall that I’ve only seen in my late mother’s piano teaching room (a woman in a red dress at a black grand piano). A little spooky but it adds to the experience. We went for a drive the first day and stopped at a mountain road ice cream stand, where there on the window was a rainbow decal. We had dinner that night at the lodge, where dinner and breakfast come with the package. They offer a third night (either Thursday or Sunday) on summer weekends, in case you want to get there earl y or head back Monday, but food’s not included with the extra day. The Pocono Mountains have plenty of attractions. We went back to Mount Airy Casino on Saturday for a couple hours of penny slots. There’s The Candle Shoppe of the Poconos, that has the added attraction of being haunted. You can arrange for a Segway tour if that’s to your liking (www.poconosssegwaytours.com) or just hang out by the pool with the other guests, enjoy some cocktails at the cabana (or not, some of us tea-total, they have something for eveyryone). The area is spectacularly beautiful and this is truly at the top of my list as a twice-a-year (I could do three) escape to peace and serenity. I can’t say enough about Rainbow Mountain Resort and if you’re anywhere near the area or can plan a nice relaxing stay there, I think you’ll love it as much as we do.]]>

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    Archie Comics' gay Kevin Keller to marry

    I was an Archie fan as a kid. I can’t imagine how much it would have meant to this gay boy to see myself in a comic book, let alone see the unthinkable: a gay male character with a husband, as Archie’s Kevin Keller will be portrayed in the future. It really does touch my heart, knowing what an impossibility this was to a child like me in 1960s Indiana. Amazing. See link below.

    Now Archie Comics Brings Us Gay Marriage Bleeding Cool Comic Book, Movies and TV News and Rumors

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    Marriage equality comes to New York on 30th anniversary of AIDS epidemic

    I just read an excellent article making a connection I haven’t seen elsewhere: the coincidence and importance of marriage equality coming to New York in the same year as the 30th anniversary of the AIDS plague. It contends, among other things, that marriage will be an important step in stemming the spread of HIV, especially for lgbt people of color. A must read and a needed perspective. See link below.

    NY gays to marry in the 30th year of AIDS epidemic – CBS 3 Springfield – WSHM – News, Weather and Sports

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    Six hours into equality in New York State

    It’s just 6:00 am and I’m waking up in the Poconos, reading about the midnight ceremonies that tolled the bells for equality in New York. It brings with it a feeling of emancipation and a realization that the yoke of discrimination, worn so long it no longer presses down, is most noticeable when it’s gone. Congratulations to the happy couples and everyone who helped get them there. From the New York Times:

    NYT: Across New York, Hundreds of G

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    Homophobic assaults on the rise in Minnesota with push for marriage amendment

    This comes as no surprise. As GOP politicians in Minnesota (aided and abetted by Michele Bachmann, who used the original marriage law in that state to rise to prominence) continue their divisive drive to write discrimination into their constitution, voilence against lgbt citizens is on the rise. One man retells his experience in the Star Tribune.

    Gary Gimmestad: Homophobia is on the rise in Minnesota. Wonder why? | StarTribune.com

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    Google + (so far so good)

    Cross-posted from MadeMark.net I’m on the beta tryout for Google +, the giant’s attempt to take down Facebook. I haven’t had much time to play around with it, but one thing I really like: circles. You put people into different circles, such as ‘friends,’ ‘family,’ and ‘acquaintances.’ Then when you post things you select who can see it. I have several sisters I love dearly and am close to, but politically we’re quite far apart (they support equality, they just vote Republican). I’m not going to say on Facebook that Michele Bachmann is a harpy from hell, or some other snarky thing or overtly political comment. It’s not constraining myself, it’s just being sensitive to having a diverse set of friends and loved ones, which is a good thing. With Google + you can show that to just your friends if you want to, and save your family for the all the non-incendiary status updates. NOTE: This will also come in very handy at the job: you can put people into a ‘co-worker’ circle and no longer be busted for saying you hate the cubicle life, because they can’t see it. It also looks really smooth. Facebook is too busy for me, too much crap on there, and it’s not all that user friendly. Just try finding the feed for your blog on there to funnel into your fan page. You have to click apps, and then notes, and then this and then that . . . hassle. I think it’s going to take some time to catch on. Facebook has a very significant lead, but Google + (or, if you prefer, Google Plus) is a serious threat and worth a try from everyone looking to stay on the social media tip. (Hey, do you think ‘circle me’ will be the new ‘friend me’? At least it’s a verb.)]]>

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    Demographics changing in nursing homes as Caucasians find alternatives

    A recent study finds that the number of Hispanic, Asian and African-American nursing home residents is on the rise, while Caucasians are seeking alternatives. Rather than signal greater access for minorities to nursing homes, it’s a reflection of income disparity. From Senior Housing News: Many Americans are choosing alternatives to nursing homes as they get older, which means that nursing homes are getting smaller, and the demographics are starting to shift. A new study shows that Hispanic, Asian, and African-American presence in nursing homes has increased significantly in the past decade or so, while the number of Caucasians has shrunk. Brown University researchers published a study in the July edition of Health Affairs, saying this trend stems from changing demographics and disparities in what people can afford. While at first glance it may seem that minorities are gaining greater access to nursing home care, this growth is more likely due to the fact that blacks, Hispanics, and Asians aren’t as able to afford more desirable forms of health care as wealthier whites are, says Zhanlian Feng, assistant professor of community health in the Warren Alpert Medical School of Brown University. “Seemingly, we are closing the gap in terms of minority access to nursing home beds, but I don’t think that is something to celebrate,” says Feng. “They are really the last resort. Most elders would rather stay in their homes, or some place like home, but not a nursing home unless they have to.”
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  • Videos

    Al Franken politely obliterates Focus on the Family testimony

    This is the man the Republicans made fun of when he was running for office. I thought he’d be a great senator then, and I know he is now.]]>

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    Rick Rose: Moments in Time – an AIDS remembrance

    Editor’s note: This is the only posting for the day. I’ve been friends with Rick for over 20 years and shared some of the heartache he so beautifully expresses here. Our lost partners, our lives now without this shadow darkening them every day. Nothing more needs to be said – Mark. It was thirty years ago that HIV/AIDS entered our world as we know it. A time capsule was created ten years into the pandemic which has brought excruciating pain and endless questions . In it are impassioned missives from those living with AIDS at that time left for us survivors today. On June 5th, the noted discovery day of HIV, several messages were opened and revealed. These words from one of the many linger with me: “Look back in wonder….Prepare for the next time….Do not forget us.” Does this warning resonate with you dear friends as it does with me? I haven’t forgotten the mid 90s when there wasn’t a time in the day where I wasn’t thinking or dealing with AIDS. How does my partner Charles go on balancing one medical appointment with another, counterbalancing one cocktail drug with another? When will Celio’s mother find the courage to say goodbye to her dear son? Why didn’t Linda’s husband tell her he had HIV before they consummated their marriage? Where did Jenny, who carried the virus, find the fearlessness to decide to be impregnated, carrying “a child at risk?” How did her husband take the risk and go through with it? And why, why do these friends have AIDS, and I don’t? I haven’t forgotten Charles, Celiio, Linda or the many incredible lovers and loved ones who have blazed the trail before me, onward to eternal life. And I haven’t forgotten the lessons they’ve taught me in preparing for the “next time”…the “next time” I say goodbye (as I did with my Dad, grandmas, grandfather and best friend), the “next time” I am called to action following yet another unexpected disaster (as I did with the Haitian hurricane, the Japanese tsunami or the Joplin tornado), the “next time” I fight with their courage and strength for the passage of a law or obtaining medical services for someone in need (as I do often). But I have forgotten…a lot. I have grown to comfortably know a new world without AIDS, without the suffering my friends and I endured on an ongoing basis for over a decade. I lost 19 friends in one year. Fifteen years ago, I rubbed the feet of my friends with neuropathy as they fell to sleep; I reminded my lover with dementia of his next checkup and drove him there; I fed my friends with wasting syndrome and defended them in the eyes of passersby who never came to accept the “face of AIDS”; I cried myself to sleep regularly and prayed at night to wake up to a morning news headline pronouncing an end to HIV and a world without AIDS. I guess I got my wish. I am complacent. I walk in the light of each new day, forgetting the shadows of those passed. I am blessed to be HIV negative, to have survived, and thank God for it. Yet I once was the one asking God to give me AIDS if it meant it would save the life of a friend. Sub-Saharan Africa is miles away from my safe little world on the border of Louisiana and Texas yet Baton Rouge which is second in the nation in AIDS cases per capita is a simple three hour drive for me. I have embarrassingly made a subconscious decision to have no friends living with AIDS, having been hurt, burned and salty eyed for far too long. I write with a contrite heart as I do look back in wonder…and I do vividly remember Suzanne, John, Michael, Brian, Randy, Mark, Robin, my three babies with AIDS who I cared for, Larry, Tony, Jim, Amanda, the other Mark, another Michael, Linda, Celio and Charles, visualizing their tender feet in my hands, their fearfully faithful eyes staring in mine. I go forward. I ask for forgiveness and preparation as I pray that I don’t have to read a headline on July 22, 2030 stating: 180 Million People Liiving with AIDS Now Dead Since It Was Recognized
    50 Years Ago.

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  • Events

    Marianne Faithfull at City Winery in December

    In case you missed it, see Steve Barnes’s review here of Marianne Faitfhfull’s latest. She’ll be performing at SoHo’s City Winery in December, where I recently saw Rickie Lee Jones, one of my musical idols. If you’re a Faithfull fan you’ll want to catch this.]]>

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    Review: ‘Savage Beauty’ & ‘Art and Homosexuality: A History of Ideas’

    By Steve Barnes “I think everyone has a deep sexuality,” Alexander McQueen says in the astonishing catalog for “Savage Beauty,” the retrospective of his work that is in its last few weeks at the Metropolitan Museum of Art (it’s up through August 7). “And sometimes it’s good to use a little of it—and sometimes a lot of it—like a masquerade.” Both sexuality and masquerade make their presence strongly felt in the photograph on the page facing that quote. A provocative skirt and jacket ensemble that mixes black leather, fox fur and a series of silver metal hoops and studs, it seems to be made for a woman who is equal parts dominatrix, socialite and heroine from an Edward Gorey book. Its combination of childish whimsy, in-your-face sadomasochism and classically flawless high style makes it a near-perfect introduction to the unique world that McQueen created. If you can’t make it to the Met, or don’t want to face the show’s daunting crowds, this sumptuously produced catalog is a good way to enter McQueen’s world. Its hundreds of photos show off many of the designer’s strengths—his amazingly precise hand at cutting garments, his unconventional yet always controlled sense of balance and his ability to bring together the most unexpected materials in ways that make the results seem as if we should have expected them all along. This is a man who makes a jacket on which crocodile heads serve as epaulets, creates a bodice from feathers, and constructs an aluminum facsimile of a spinal column to run along the backbone of a vest. And most importantly, none of these things ever feel like stunts. McQueen always saw himself as a storyteller, his shows relating back to themes taken from film, literature and history. The clothes exist simultaneously as fashion statements and part of a larger artistic discussion. They absolutely belong in an art museum—and they will definitely repay the amount of time spent going back over them in the pages of Alexander McQueen: Savage Beauty. Sexuality and masquerade also figure prominently in another recent book that’s also well worth looking at. Christopher Reed’s Art and Homosexuality: A History of Ideas is an engaging, well-written history of how the development of homosexual identity and the major movements in art history have fed off of each other. Reed, an associate professor of English and Visual Culture at Penn State, discusses a broad range of ways that same-sex relationships have appeared throughout history, arguing that it was really not until the early 20th century that a homosexual identity as we currently understand it emerged in any public sort of way.
    That is not at all to say that he finds no examples of homosexuality itself in earlier periods. From the patronage system of ancient Greece (in which relationships between an older man who served to “initiate” a younger man were common), through the many examples of same-sex relations in feudal Japan, the South Pacific islands, and the culture of the American Indians, Reed constructs a long history of alternatives to what we see as “normal” gender roles. But just as those social alternatives remained somewhat open-ended and unformed, so did their representation in sculptures and paintings. Open-ended and unformed certainly does not mean invisible, however. We see a 12th century illustration depicting the wedding of two men, representations of rather bawdy relations between 13th century knights and monks, and 16th century engravings showing groups of fleshy naked women pleasuring themselves with no men anywhere near. We also get to know many of the artists who drew outside the lines when it comes to sexual behavior: Gianantonio Bazzi, who referred to himself as “Il Sodoma,” or the Sodomite; the 19th century painter Rosa Bonheur, who needed to file an official permit with the Paris police to allow her to wear men’s clothes and keep her hair cut short; and the African-American sculptor Edmonia Lewis, whose brute strength permitted her to do the kind of rough cutting on marble that even most male sculptors left to their workmen. Once modernity takes over, according to Reed, artistic temperament and homosexuality became intertwined in the public imagination. When homosexuality was turned into a medically and politically applied label, it became a much more direct target of attack for the powers that be, and many avant-garde artists strenuously tried to distance themselves from any suggestion of it. The macho posturings of the Abstract Expressionists are a major case in point, as are the directly anti-homosexual pontifications of such critics as Clement Greenberg. Reed points out the difficulty that such gay artists as Jasper Johns, Robert Rauschenberg and especially, Andy Warhol, had in being accepted as serious artists by the boys in the Ab-Ex pack and their hangers-on. Vivian Gornick even went so far as to label Pop art “a malicious fairy’s joke” rather than an art movement. But as our vantage point in history shows, Johns, Rauschenberg and Warhol certainly succeeded in entering the highest reaches of the esthetic and financial art worlds. Despite the power of the many artists who fought the AIDS epidemic in their work and the extraordinary strides made by feminist and lesbian artists, however, Reed still finds a reticence on the part of museums and critics to open themselves up to the political messages that many gay (or queer, which seems to be his dominant term) artists are still trying to deliver. Thanks to this book, though, that message is getting a worthy platform. Steve Barnes is a freelance writer based in New York City. His work has appeared in such publications as ARTnews and the Wall Street Journal. ]]>