• Latest,  LGBTSR,  Stephanie Mott

    Stephanie Mott: Pink Pussy Hats, Drag Shows, and Confederate Flags

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    Stephanie Mott

    Guest Column
    Stephanie Mott

    I am offended by pink pussy hats. There, I said it. They can be seen as exclusionary of trans people and women of color. This is a fact. It is also a fact that they mean different things to different people. I am not going to tell someone else whether they should or they shouldn’t wear one. And quite frankly, I am saddened this is causing division, because we have so much to do.

    I am also offended by drag. I believe it perpetuates the myth that transgender women are just men in dresses, and it sexualizes women in a world where we need much less sexualization of women. But this doesn’t mean I think we should eliminate drag shows.

    Why? Because I also understand drag is an outlet for some people, a lot of money has been raised to support LGB & T causes through drag shows, and just because something offends me does not give me permission to ignore how other people see it or demand they stop.

    So you won’t find me complaining about drag or protesting drag shows. But if you watch closely, you will sense I am not at ease at drag shows and will likely leave if my uneasiness reaches a point where I feel like I need to.

    I am offended by confederate flags. To me, they represent fear and intimidation, slavery and hatred for people of color and people of diverse sexual orientations and gender identities.

    A couple years ago, I was driving from Tulsa, Oklahoma to Oklahoma City and a white pickup truck passed me with an image of the confederate flag on the tailgate. In the truck, were three white guys, shoulder to shoulder to shoulder, easily filling the space of the cab.

    When you drive a car with a “Transgender and Christian” bumper sticker on it, and a “Black Lives Matter” bumper sticker, and a “Nevertheless, She Persisted” bumper sticker” as well as a few more; you notice things like confederate flags on the tailgates of passing trucks.

    About 20 minutes later, the same truck passed me again. I will admit to being more-than-a-little concerned. However, the truck went on down the highway just like it had before, and I surmised they must have stopped for gas or something – nothing to do my me or my bumper stickers.

    Back to pink pussy hats. I will not wear one. I have my reasons. I will also not complain when someone chooses to wear one. I suppose they have their reasons, too.

    This is what concerns me about pink pussy hats.

    The Trump administration just created a new division in the Department of Health and Human Services dedicated to making it easier for health professionals to discriminate against reproductive healthcare, people who are LGBTQ+, and other groups of people based on some definition of a deeply-held “religious” belief.

    Kansas has yet to expand Medicaid and continues its assault on some of the most marginalized people in the state. This is just one of many Kansas policies doing the same thing.

    There is an identifiable pathway, relentlessly pursued, in which Roe vs Wade could be overturned.

    We have an election coming up this fall where we have the possibility of preventing the furtherance of these, and many more, dictatorial policies and actions.

    Every single seat in the Kansas House of Representatives is up for election. Every single seat in the US House of Representatives is up for election. And it is possible in this election, control of the US Senate could be taken away from the Trump administration.

    I’m not really interested in talking about pink pussy hats; if we should or should not wear them. I think people who love drag should continue to love drag. And I know there will always be people who have confederate flags on the tailgates of their pickup trucks. I support their right to do so. I don’t want to talk about any of those things.

    I want to talk about how to save our state, our country, and our world. If you want to talk about these things with me, I’m not that hard to find.

    Stephanie Mott is a transsexual woman from Topeka, Kansas and a nationally known speaker on transgender issues. In addition, Stephanie is the executive director of Kansas Statewide Transgender Education Project and a commissioner on the City of Topeka Human Relations Commission. She can be reached at stephanieequality@yahoo.com

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  • Columns,  Guest Posts,  Latest,  Lee Lynch's Amazon Trail,  LGBTSR

    Lee Lynch’s Amazon Trail: Zipline Vegas

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    Photo by Sue Hardesty

    Guest Column
    Lee Lynch’s Amazon Trail: Zipline Vegas

    In the end, it’s all about ego. I’ll do almost anything, apparently, to protect my ego from being bruised.

    She’s going on a zipline in Las Vegas. That’s what my sweetheart announced this morning. It gets worse. She said the zipline goes over city streets and buildings—and here I was envisioning a sweet pastoral zip across raging river rapids and sharp rocks. Now I only have to worry about her colliding with concrete, metal, and glass. Head first. Seems you have options; she plans zip to belly down, like a diving bird, a Peregrine falcon perhaps, which can reach speeds up to 200 mph.

    She concocted this scheme with our friend Heather, who lives in Vegas and knows all the cool things to do. I have a feeling this trip will be a lot different than the one I took to the Lambda Literary Conference back in the early 1990s.

  • Interviews,  LGBTSR,  Live Mic Podcast

    It’s Back! The Live Mic Podcast Returns, with Guest Dave Hughes of RetireFabulously.com

    “Watch out! It’s a live mic!”

    You know it’s a new year, right? 2018 is already off to a great start. I’m living in our house in the New Jersey woods, loving life, and making plans. One of them is to get back to a favorite pastime: interviewing interesting people. I’ve been doing it for years, both written interviews and in podcasts. I just like talking to people, and sharing them with readers and listeners. So, here we go, the first Live Mic with Mark McNease podcast for a year that promises to be fascinating.

  • Book Reviews,  Books,  LGBTSR

    Book Review: We’re Going to Need More Wine, by Gabrielle Union

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm

    “We’re Going to Need More Wine” by Gabrielle Union
    c.2017, Dey St.
    $26.99 / $33.50 Canada 263 pages

    Here’s to us.

    A toast to our years together, our friendships, things we’ve done and laughs we’ve had. Here’s to us – together forever. We need to do this more often. We need to stay in touch. As author Gabrielle Union says, “We’re Going to Need More Wine.”

  • Latest,  Lee Lynch's Amazon Trail,  LGBTSR

    Guest Column: Lee Lynch’s Amazon Trail – Regrets, I Have a Few

    Photo by Sue Hardesty

    Guest Column by Lee Lynch

    The Amazon Trail
    Regrets, I Have a Few

    Luncheonette. Darn it all, I just found the word I was looking for back in 2007 when I set a scene in a coffee shop in New York. It wasn’t a coffee shop, it was a luncheonette. In that era, you could use the term coffee shop, but a reader might picture a Greenwich Village or a North Beach San Francisco dive that served espresso to long-haired women and men in berets. In my novel Beggar of Love, I wanted to evoke elbows on the counter, ham sandwiches and steaming cups of joe.

    Telling my sweetheart about this, she popped out with, “My Beautiful Luncheonette.” We laughed, because of the 1985 gay male film “My Beautiful Laundrette.” I immediately thought I could write a short story about a luncheonette, but I don’t have enough time left to write a story about every word I fall in love with, not to mention I already wrote Dusty’s Queen of Hearts Diner.

  • Columns,  LGBTSR

    Rod Hensel: LGBT History in T-Shirts – A Wearable Revolution

    Rod Hensel

    By Rod Hensel
    The Gayging Advocate

    There comes a time in the aging process when you realize that you have become, in the eyes of those younger, a historical figure.  For  LGBT people that moment usually comes in preparation for annual Pride activities, when interest in the early days of what we called “Gay Liberation” intensifies.  My historical figure moment came earlier this year with a call from Buffalo State University about tee shirts.

  • LGBTSR

    The Savvy Senior: Best Bicycles for Aging Baby Boomers


    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,
    My husband and I are interested in getting a couple of bicycles for leisurely exercise and fun, and would like to get your recommendation. We’re both approaching 60 and are a little overweight, and it’s been a while since we rode.
    Easy Riders

    Dear Easy,
    If you’re interested in leisurely, recreational riding for fitness and fun, a great option is a “comfort bike,” which is very popular among baby boomers. Here’s what you should know about this option, along with some tips to help you shop and choose.

  • Featured Book,  LGBTSR,  Q Mysteries

    Featured Book: The Sodden Sailor (A Nick Williams Mystery Book 11), by Frank W. Butterfield

    This week’s Featured Book sees author Frank W. Butterfield returning with #11 in the Nick Williams Mystery series. Note: Frank will be a guest on the upcoming, new Aged to Perfection podcast, familiar to LGBTSr readers and subscribers for our interviews with artists, authors, activists and everyday fabulous people. Listen for Frank and other great guests starting summer, 2017.

    The Sodden Sailor (A Nick Williams Mystery Book 11)
    Frank W. Butterfield
    Print Length: 330 pages
    Publication Date: May 29, 2017

    Sunday, February 6, 1955

    It’s Sunday night and Nick has decided he wants to get back in the kitchen to make a couple of pans of lasagna for dinner, something he hasn’t done since he and Carter moved into the big pile of rocks on Nob Hill.

  • In the Spotlight,  LGBTSR

    In the Spotlight: Rick Rose – Entrepreneur, Activist, Inspiration

    Rick Rose, Contemplating His Next Project

    Welcome to a new regular feature here at LGBTSr: In the Spotlight. We’ll be highlighting individuals who inspire us and demonstrate that age is no obstacle. Artists, activists, authors, and everyday people living life to the fullest.

    Let’s get this show going with the indefatigable Rick Rose. Rick was an early contributor to LGBTSr and is currently the co-host of The Twist Podcast. Read on …

  • Columns,  LGBTSR,  Savvy Senior

    The Savvy Senior: How to Hire a Home Helper


    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,
    I would like to hire a personal assistant/home helper for my mom to assist with some simple household chores like house keeping, errand running, driving her to the doctor, and keeping her company. But mom doesn’t require personal/physical caregiving nor does she require any home medical care. Any tips to help us find someone?
    Looking for Mom

    Dear Looking,
    Getting your mom some help at home to handle some of her household chores can make a big difference keeping her independent longer. Here’s what you should know, along with some tips to help you find someone reliable for your mom.

  • Columns,  Lee Lynch's Amazon Trail,  LGBTSR

    Lee Lynch’s Amazon Trail: A Tenth Anniversary at Sea

    Photo by Sue Hardesty

    By Lee Lynch

    We had every intention of being homebodies this year. No travel at all, just a year to save our pennies and get grounded. It’s been delicious. After several months of staying in our little coastal home, my mind is sharper, my sleep schedule is approaching normal, and I’ve got a good start on my next book.

    Then, something just as wonderful happened. The publishers of Sapphire Books invited us to be part of “Literary Adventures at Sea,” a program they put together with Olivia Cruises, which is being sponsored by Curve Magazine. I admit that I cried when we were asked. Two of our best friends urged us to join them. My sweetheart and I never ever dreamed we could go on a cruise. This one is sailing the inland passage of Alaska. Alaska! Growing up my parents’ apartment in Queens, I never thought I’d travel farther than Manhattan.

  • Interviews,  LGBTSR

    From the Interview Archives: A Conversation with Author Patricia Nell Warren

    After six and a half years, I’ve managed to amass an extensive archive of interviews. I’ll be offering up one from the vault every week or so. Here’ s an interview that first ran at LGBTSr in December, 2011, with iconic author Patricia Nell Warren, a personal literary hero of mine. – Mark McNease/Editor

    By Mark McNease

    I came out at 16 in a small Indiana city of 30,000 people. It was 1974, and I was deeply hungry for images of myself as a gay person. There wasn’t much available then, aside from books I ordered from the Psychology Today book club, some of which did more harm than good. Then came a novel called “The Front Runner” about the love story between a young college athlete and his coach. The book gave me hope and, along with the few others I could find, let me know I was not alone in the world.

  • Latest,  LGBTSR

    Trump Administration Proposes Eliminating LGBT Elders from Key Federal Survey


    Via SAGE:

    [NEW YORK, NY] Services & Advocacy for LGBT Elders (SAGE) announced today that it is launching a nationwide effort to oppose the Trump Administration’s proposed erasure of LGBT elders from the National Survey of Older Americans Act Participants (NSOAAP). Specifically, SAGE opposes changes that would eliminate questions that allow the federal government to assess the extent to which LGBT older adults are receiving federally funded elder services. According to a March 13 notice in the Federal Register, those questions (which have been included in the Survey since 2014) are proposed for elimination in the 2017 Survey. This is the only change the Trump Administration proposes to the Survey.