• Columns,  Lee Lynch's Amazon Trail,  LGBTSR,  Uncategorized

    Lee Lynch’s Amazon Trail: What?


    By Lee Lynch
    The Amazon Trail

    Photo by Sue Hardesty

    When I first put in the hearing aids, I felt a giant exhalation of tension. Though I knew of my relatively modest hearing loss, I was unaware what a strain it put not just on my marriage and public life, but on my mind and body.

    Grandpa Lynch, a retired Railroad Engineer, had big clunky hearing aids. Grandma Lynch needed a pair, though her family said she could hear perfectly well when she wanted to. There was definitely hearing loss on my mother’s side, but her parents couldn’t have afforded hearing aids if they’d wanted them, which they didn’t any more than Grandma Lynch did.

    Shame was attached to the very idea of needing such devices. Do people reject hearing aids out of pride? Vanity? Was it the stigma of disability? Maybe back then the new-fangled things weren’t very effective. Probably they were uncomfortable.

  • Columns,  LGBTSR

    Dave Hughes of RetireFabulously: The Adventure List: What it is and Why You Need One

    By Dave Hughes, RetireFabulously.com

    By now, you have almost certainly heard of the Bucket List. That’s a list of things you hope to experience before you pass away or “kick the bucket.” Perhaps you even have one.

    I do. I think they are a good idea.

    But while the concept of the Bucket List is good, it has its limitations. You probably think of your bucket list in grandiose terms. Your list is probably filled with big-ticket items and stretch goals, like taking a trip to Japan, visiting every national park, or jumping out of a perfectly good airplane.

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    The Savvy Senior: Can a Debt Collector Take My Social Security Benefits?


    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    Can my Social Security benefits be garnished if I have some outstanding debts? I just turned 62 and would like to start collecting my retirement benefits, but want to find this out before I apply.

    Worried Retiree 

    Dear Worried,

    Whether your Social Security benefits are garnishable or not depends on whom you owe. Banks and other financial creditors, for example, can’t touch your Social Security checks. But if Uncle Sam is collecting on a debt, some of your benefits are fair game. Here’s what you should know.

  • Book Reviews,  Columns,  LGBTSR

    Book Review: The Boys of Fairy Town, by Jim Elledge

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm Sez

    “The Boys of Fairy Town” by Jim Elledge
    c.2018, Chicago Review Press $29.99 / $39.99 Canada
    290 pages

    Dates, times, and old dead guys.

    When you were in school, that’s all history was to you: a list of years and names to memorize and then forget, twenty minutes after Finals Week. So maybe now it’s time to find a history book that’s relevant to you – a book like “The Boys of Fairy Town” by Jim Elledge.

  • LGBTSR

    The Savvy Senior: How To Find Retiree Travel Perks


    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    What types of travel discounts are available to older travelers? I just retired and am interested in learning about travel deals for people over 60.

    Ready To Go

    Dear Ready,

    There are literally thousands of different travel-related discounts available to retirees that usually start anywhere between the ages 50 and 65. These discounts – typically ranging between 5 and 25 percent off – can add up to save you hundreds of dollars on your next trip. Here’s how you can find them.

  • LGBTSR,  Travel,  Travel Time

    Gay Travelers Magazine: Provincetown – Where LGBTQ+ Can Be Themselves

    Reprinted with permission from Gay Travelers Magazine

    By Steven Skelley and Thomas Routzong

    Provincetown, Massachusetts stands out in history as not only the first place where the Pilgrims landed, it is constantly evolving to accept those who seek refuge, a place to be free and a place to be themselves. We asked locals to give us the inside scoop on the past, present and future of LGBTQ+ Provincetown.

    How would you describe Provincetown in one sentence?

    From Tony Fuccillo, Director of Tourism:

    Provincetown is a place where you feel you can truly be proud of being gay; all LGBTQ+, yes everyone is welcome in Ptown and can be themselves when they are here without any judgment from anyone.

  • Book Reviews,  LGBTSR

    Book Review: Tough Mothers: Amazing Stories of History’s Mightiest Matriarchs, by Jason Porath



    By Terri Schlichenmeyer

    The Bookworm Sez

    “Tough Mothers: Amazing Stories of History’s Mightiest Matriarchs” by Jason Porath
    c.2018, Dey Street $24.99 / $31.00 Canada
    244 pages

    Your mom is tough as nails.

    The minute you were placed in her arms, she became your personal warrior, cheerleader, and banker. She remembers the good things you did and (sigh) the dumb things you tried. She pretends to forget why she ever gave you That Look. And in the new book “Tough Mothers” by Jason Porath, you’ll meet other women just like her.

  • LGBTSR,  Travel,  Travel Time

    Travel Time: What Venice Taught Me, by Sandra de Helen

    Sandra de Helen, photo by Bev Standish

    Travel Time is a regular feature at LGBTSr, highlighting destinations, travel suggestions and travelogues for the LGBTQ traveler.

    What Venice Taught Me
    By Sandra de Helen

    The only place outside the United States my mom dreamed of visiting was Venice, Italy. She was entranced by this city built on water. As for me, I wanted to go everywhere, see everything. But we were working class poor, living in rural Missouri. We became even poorer when my father died at age forty-two leaving my mom who was nine years younger with two little girls, one of who wasn’t quite two years old. I was the other daughter, and I was seven. Any traveling we did was through reading. Every book offered another world. I spent my childhood dreaming of those worlds.

    My first trip out of state was to New Orleans. I was eighteen. At twenty-one, I flew to Alaska and stayed for two months. Later that year I moved to Texas. Over the next decade, I lived in Alaska, Kansas, Arizona, and Missouri again. By the age of thirty-two, I had visited seventeen states. I was ready to go to Europe. When my credit union offered a chartered trip to Seefeld, Austria for only five hundred dollars for eight days, I placed a down payment and invited a friend to join me.

  • Lee Lynch's Amazon Trail,  LGBTSR

    Lee Lynch’s Amazon Trail: A Poem and a Plant

    Photo by Sue Hardesty

    By Lee Lynch
    The Amazon Trail: A Poem and a Plant

    The day was typical for the Pacific Northwest. The brightening sky had stopped sputtering its fine dewdrops for the moment, the wind had blown itself out, and the development where I live came to life. People took advantage of the disappearing dreariness to walk their dogs, scurry to our centrally located mailboxes, or meet their step goals.

    I dropped off a copy of New York Magazine in the common room. The cover quoted Melissa Shusterman, who’s running for the Pennsylvania state legislature. “My 16-year-old turned to me after the election and he said, ‘America doesn’t want a smart, qualified woman in office.’ By Friday, I was running.”

  • LGBTSR,  Savvy Senior

    The Savvy Senior: How to Choose a Good Estate Sale Company



    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    Can you provide some tips on how to choose a good estate sale company who can sell all the leftover items in my mother’s house?

    Inquiring Daughter

    Dear Inquiring,

    The estate sale business has become a huge industry over the past decade. There are roughly 22,000 estate sale companies that currently operate in the U.S., up nearly 60 percent from just 10 years ago. But not all estate sale companies are alike.

  • LGBTSR

    SAGE Issues Pledge to Stand with LGBT Elders in Face of Discrimination

    From SAGE:

    The Trump administration is giving businesses and medical providers a license to discriminate: to deny services to LGBT individuals based on religious or moral beliefs. Freedom of religion is important to all of us; that’s why it’s protected by our Constitution. But that freedom doesn’t give anyone the right to harm others or to discriminate. In response, SAGE is enlisting the power of the LGBT community, their allies, and the people who care for them to take a stand.

  • Latest,  LGBTSR

    Adventures in Gardening (#1 in a Series)

    In the beginning: last year’s garden.

    Crossposted from LGBTSr

    Mark McNease/Editor

    Before moving full time to our house in rural New Jersey, my husband Frank and I had very little success with our attempts at growing a vegetable garden. Gardens of any kind, especially vegetable gardens, require frequent watering and care. We were only here on weekends, driving out from New York City, and then not every weekend.

  • Columns,  Latest,  LGBTSR,  ROD HENSEL

    Rod Hensel: It’s Time for New York State to Step Up for LGBT Seniors

    Rod Hensel

    By Rod Hensel

    Our LGBT seniors who are still out and about and active need to be willing show they know how to post on Facebook and use a phone when election time draws near. We’re not even asking for money, just the right to live with dignity and pride.

    On the west coast, California gets it. Washington state gets it. It’s time for New York State to take a leadership role on the east coast and show they “get it” too.

    The “it” is legislation requiring professional caregivers — especially those in nursing homes and senior housing facilities — to take a course on the special needs of LGBT seniors so their charges can be out, open and comfortable in their senior years.

    You can call it “cultural competency” or “sensitivity training” or whatever you wish, but the fact is LGBT people of my generation are scared to just be themselves and are going back into the closet in their autumn years.