• Book Reviews,  LGBTSR

    Book Review: Tough Mothers: Amazing Stories of History’s Mightiest Matriarchs, by Jason Porath



    By Terri Schlichenmeyer

    The Bookworm Sez

    “Tough Mothers: Amazing Stories of History’s Mightiest Matriarchs” by Jason Porath
    c.2018, Dey Street $24.99 / $31.00 Canada
    244 pages

    Your mom is tough as nails.

    The minute you were placed in her arms, she became your personal warrior, cheerleader, and banker. She remembers the good things you did and (sigh) the dumb things you tried. She pretends to forget why she ever gave you That Look. And in the new book “Tough Mothers” by Jason Porath, you’ll meet other women just like her.

  • LGBTSR,  Travel,  Travel Time

    Travel Time: What Venice Taught Me, by Sandra de Helen

    Sandra de Helen, photo by Bev Standish

    Travel Time is a regular feature at LGBTSr, highlighting destinations, travel suggestions and travelogues for the LGBTQ traveler.

    What Venice Taught Me
    By Sandra de Helen

    The only place outside the United States my mom dreamed of visiting was Venice, Italy. She was entranced by this city built on water. As for me, I wanted to go everywhere, see everything. But we were working class poor, living in rural Missouri. We became even poorer when my father died at age forty-two leaving my mom who was nine years younger with two little girls, one of who wasn’t quite two years old. I was the other daughter, and I was seven. Any traveling we did was through reading. Every book offered another world. I spent my childhood dreaming of those worlds.

    My first trip out of state was to New Orleans. I was eighteen. At twenty-one, I flew to Alaska and stayed for two months. Later that year I moved to Texas. Over the next decade, I lived in Alaska, Kansas, Arizona, and Missouri again. By the age of thirty-two, I had visited seventeen states. I was ready to go to Europe. When my credit union offered a chartered trip to Seefeld, Austria for only five hundred dollars for eight days, I placed a down payment and invited a friend to join me.

  • Lee Lynch's Amazon Trail,  LGBTSR

    Lee Lynch’s Amazon Trail: A Poem and a Plant

    Photo by Sue Hardesty

    By Lee Lynch
    The Amazon Trail: A Poem and a Plant

    The day was typical for the Pacific Northwest. The brightening sky had stopped sputtering its fine dewdrops for the moment, the wind had blown itself out, and the development where I live came to life. People took advantage of the disappearing dreariness to walk their dogs, scurry to our centrally located mailboxes, or meet their step goals.

    I dropped off a copy of New York Magazine in the common room. The cover quoted Melissa Shusterman, who’s running for the Pennsylvania state legislature. “My 16-year-old turned to me after the election and he said, ‘America doesn’t want a smart, qualified woman in office.’ By Friday, I was running.”

  • LGBTSR,  Savvy Senior

    The Savvy Senior: How to Choose a Good Estate Sale Company



    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    Can you provide some tips on how to choose a good estate sale company who can sell all the leftover items in my mother’s house?

    Inquiring Daughter

    Dear Inquiring,

    The estate sale business has become a huge industry over the past decade. There are roughly 22,000 estate sale companies that currently operate in the U.S., up nearly 60 percent from just 10 years ago. But not all estate sale companies are alike.

  • LGBTSR

    SAGE Issues Pledge to Stand with LGBT Elders in Face of Discrimination

    From SAGE:

    The Trump administration is giving businesses and medical providers a license to discriminate: to deny services to LGBT individuals based on religious or moral beliefs. Freedom of religion is important to all of us; that’s why it’s protected by our Constitution. But that freedom doesn’t give anyone the right to harm others or to discriminate. In response, SAGE is enlisting the power of the LGBT community, their allies, and the people who care for them to take a stand.

  • Latest,  LGBTSR

    Adventures in Gardening (#1 in a Series)

    In the beginning: last year’s garden.

    Crossposted from LGBTSr

    Mark McNease/Editor

    Before moving full time to our house in rural New Jersey, my husband Frank and I had very little success with our attempts at growing a vegetable garden. Gardens of any kind, especially vegetable gardens, require frequent watering and care. We were only here on weekends, driving out from New York City, and then not every weekend.

  • Columns,  Latest,  LGBTSR,  ROD HENSEL

    Rod Hensel: It’s Time for New York State to Step Up for LGBT Seniors

    Rod Hensel

    By Rod Hensel

    Our LGBT seniors who are still out and about and active need to be willing show they know how to post on Facebook and use a phone when election time draws near. We’re not even asking for money, just the right to live with dignity and pride.

    On the west coast, California gets it. Washington state gets it. It’s time for New York State to take a leadership role on the east coast and show they “get it” too.

    The “it” is legislation requiring professional caregivers — especially those in nursing homes and senior housing facilities — to take a course on the special needs of LGBT seniors so their charges can be out, open and comfortable in their senior years.

    You can call it “cultural competency” or “sensitivity training” or whatever you wish, but the fact is LGBT people of my generation are scared to just be themselves and are going back into the closet in their autumn years.

  • LGBTSR

    The Twist Podcast #58 Feel Good Edition: Bitter in the House, Out and Angry, and Age is Just a Death Sentence

    Welcome to show #58 of the Twist Podcast. Join co-hosts Mark McNease and Rick Rose as we take a look at the headlines, awards snubs (will we ever learn?), the attempted erasure of queer people, and age as a downer.

    Enjoy The Twist on LibsyniTunesSoundCloud, Stitcher, and right here at The Twist Podcast page.

    Copyright 2018 MadeMark Publishing

  • Book Reviews,  Featured Book,  LGBTSR

    Book Review: Tomorrow Will Be Different, by Sarah McBride

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm Sez

    “Tomorrow Will Be Different” by Sarah McBride
    c.2018, Crown Archetype $26.00 / $35.00 Canada
    288 pages

    Things are never as bad as they seem.

    There’s always a brighter spot if you just look for it, always something to be thankful for, a way of making yourself feel better because things aren’t as they seem. As in the new book “Tomorrow Will Be Different” by Sarah McBride, there’s always a chance to make a change.

  • Columns,  Latest,  LGBTSR,  One Thing or Another Columns

    One Thing or Another: The Kids Are Not All Right

    It’s always One Thing or Another … a lighthearted look at aging, life, and the absurdities of it all.

    By Mark McNease

    Imagine the despair young people feel today. Imagine the frustration at being governed by the old who ignore their fears, anxieties, terrors, hopes, dreams and concerns …

    Not long ago I was among those crusty older people who bemoaned and occasionally belittled younger generations for effectively forgetting I’d existed. As a sixty-year-old man (I tend to round up), I was embittered to know so many people even a decade younger did not share my memories of the devastation of AIDS, of my government’s indifference to that plague, of Madonna’s performance in a wedding dress at the Grammys, or of the celebration in the streets of West Hollywood following Bill Clinton’s election. It was, I insisted, a matter of preserving history, without admitting it was as much my personal history I wanted preserved as that of my country or tribe.

  • Columns,  LGBTSR

    Stephanie Mott: The Kansas Republican Party

    Stephanie Mott

    Guest Column by Stephanie Mott

    And ultimately, an ideology that says you can determine my gender identity is broken and is causing a lot of pain, and that’s why it’s important to bring us back to what we know to be true and good.

    The Kansas Republican Party has lost its mind, and its heart, and its soul. Not that this is news in Kansas right now, rather more of a status quo, but if any doubt still remained, the recently approved resolution on “sexuality” removed any remnants of even the most basic humanity.

    In case you missed it, KRP approved, by voice vote, this resolution completely inaccurate and horribly destructive to transgender and gender non-conforming (TGNC) Kansans, and then turned around and absurdly proposed it was the product of love.

  • Book Reviews,  LGBTSR

    Book Review: The Toronto Book of the Dead, by Adam Bunch

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm

    “The Toronto Book of the Dead” by Adam Bunch
    c.2017, Dundurn $16.99
    U.S. and Canada  423 pages

    Watch your step!

    Be careful where you tread; you don’t want to disturb anything important beneath the soil. Watch your feet; be mindful of where you put them. As you’ll see in “The Toronto Book of the Dead” by Adam Bunch, you’re not the first to walk on hallowed grounds.