• Columns,  One Thing or Another Columns

    One Thing or Another: Comparatively Speaking

    By Mark McNease

    It’s always One Thing or Another… a lighthearted look at aging, life, and the absurdities of it all.

    Sometimes an ache or pain is just life reminding us we’re alive, and it’s time to get on with it.

    What is it about aging that has so many of us comparing aches and pains, as if we’re war veterans comforted by knowing we’re not the only ones wounded? Life can feel like combat when you’ve lived enough of it, and maybe the time simply arrives when the scars we have to show each other are the results of putting so many decades behind us.

    I remember hearing people the age I am now talking about knee stiffness, back pain, inflamed joints, and the malaise that comes with blowing past the time when dying young was an option. “It’s better than the alternative,” we say, assuming the alternative is a cemetery plot or an urn from the local crematorium. We console ourselves knowing we’ve outlasted and outlived so much, but the body knows better the prices we pay. Friends long gone. Parents a memory that somehow becomes more cherished with the erosion of time. The increasing effort needed to get into a car, climb a staircase, and some days just get out of bed.

  • Columns,  One Thing or Another Columns

    One Thing or Another: Comparatively Speaking

    By Mark McNease

    It’s always One Thing or Another… a lighthearted look at aging, life, and the absurdities of it all.

    Sometimes an ache or pain is just life reminding us we’re alive, and it’s time to get on with it.

    What is it about aging that has so many of us comparing aches and pains, as if we’re war veterans comforted by knowing we’re not the only ones wounded? Life can feel like combat when you’ve lived enough of it, and maybe the time simply arrives when the scars we have to show each other are the results of putting so many decades behind us.

    I remember hearing people the age I am now talking about knee stiffness, back pain, inflamed joints, and the malaise that comes with blowing past the time when dying young was an option. “It’s better than the alternative,” we say, assuming the alternative is a cemetery plot or an urn from the local crematorium. We console ourselves knowing we’ve outlasted and outlived so much, but the body knows better the prices we pay. Friends long gone. Parents a memory that somehow becomes more cherished with the erosion of time. The increasing effort needed to get into a car, climb a staircase, and some days just get out of bed.

  • LGBTSR

    An LGBTSr Reader’s Guide to Some Common Issues for Older Adults

    I’m always delighted when a reader of LGBTSr reaches out with an article or, in this case, an excellent annotated list of topics that our readers may find of interest. Thanks very much to Dan Hall for sending this to me.  – Mark/Editor

    Common Questions and Answers About COVID-19 for Older Adults and People with Chronic Health Conditions – From the National Foundation for Infectious Diseases, this guide should be a go-to resource for seniors who have questions about covid, including its prevention, emergency warning signs, and treatment.

    Seniors’ COVID-19 vaccine consumer guide – This article gives a great overview about the vaccine options. The bottom line: every adult should get one as soon as possible.

    Staying Fit While Staying Home: Exercise for Seniors in Quarantine – It’s important for all of us to try to stay active for the sake of our physical and mental health, even if we’re homebound. The ideas and resources in this article offer great suggestions for seniors of all ages and abilities.

    Financial help for older adults – This guide from the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau offers an overview of assistance options for seniors who have experienced financial hardship during the pandemic. It also provides links for further reading on topics like financial planning and fraud prevention.

    Reverse Mortgage Calculator – Many seniors are looking into reverse mortgages to help them free up funds for living expenses or healthcare costs, but it’s important to know what they involve so you can decide if they’re right for you. This tool explains in detail what a reverse mortgage is and helps you calculate what yours could be.

    Mental Health and Coping during the Coronavirus (COVID-19) Pandemic – During a crisis, it’s more important than ever to take care of mental health concerns, especially considering how much our emotional health may be impacted in such strange times. This guide will help seniors and others cope with stress, grief, and more during covid.

    Socializing in Place: Tips for Older People to Stay Connected and Safe – Social isolation is a bigger concern for home-based seniors than ever. These great tips offer ideas on how older adults can stay connected while remaining socially distant from their loved ones.

    Contributed by Dan Hall

  • LGBTSR

    Senior Planet Offers Virtual Fitness and Wellness Events

    Senior Planet, in partnership with AARP, offers a wealth of online events and opportunities to connect. You can find an extensive list of upcoming wellness events HERE.

    About Senior Planet

    Aging with attitude. Senior Planet from AARP harnesses technology to change the way we age. Our courses, programs, and activities help seniors learn new skills, save money, get in shape, and make new friends.

    Senior Planet is about much more than just the latest gadgets and apps and websites. Those gadgets and apps and websites are just means to an end: enabling older adults and people of all ages to come together and find ways to learn, work, create, and thrive in today’s digital age.

  • Savvy Senior

    Savvy Senior: How to Pick the Best Place to Retire

    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    My husband and I will both be retiring in a few years and are interested in relocating to a warmer climate but could use some help. What resources can you recommend for locating and researching good places to retire in the U.S.?

    Retiring at 65                                                                              

    Dear Retiring,

    If you’re interested in relocating when you retire, like millions of other baby boomers, there are a wide variety of books and online resources that can help you find and research a new location that meet your wants, needs and budget. Here are several to help you get started.

  • The Twist Podcast

    The Twist Podcast #164: Planetary Meltdown, BBQ Suggestions, and Our Super Gay July 4 Spectacular

    Join co-hosts Mark McNease and Rick Rose as we survive the planetary meltdown and offer up our annual July 4 gaytacular.

    Enjoy The Twist on Libsyn, iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify, iHeart Radio, SoundCloud, Amazon Music, and TheTwistPodcast.com.

    Copyright 2021 MadeMark Publishing

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  • Savvy Senior

    Savvy Senior: Coping with COVID Exacerbated Tinnitus

    You can listen to my podcast interview with Savvy Senior’s Jim Miller HERE.

    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    I’ve had mild tinnitus – ringing in my ears – for years, but when I got COVID in January it got worse. Are there any treatments you know of or can recommend that can help?

    Almost 60

    Dear Almost,

    Unfortunately, new research indicates that tinnitus, a common hearing problem that affects around 50 million Americans, may be worsened by COVID-19 or possibly even triggered by it. Here’s what you should know along with some tips and treatments that may help.

  • Book Reviews

    Book Review: ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons, by John Paul Brammer

    By Terri Schlichenmeyer
    The Bookworm Sez

    ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons, by John Paul Brammer
    c.2021, Simon & Schuster  $26.00 / $35.00 Canada
    224 pages

    Your best friend definitely has an opinion.

    You need advice and she offers an answer, though it might not be the one you seek. You may get sound counsel but at the wrong time, with sentiments directly opposing what you were thinking. And yet, you have to be grateful. As in the new book ¡Hola Papi!, by John Paul Brammer, the words come from the heart.

    Growing up in a small Oklahoma town of Cache, John Paul Brammer knew nothing about being gay. He had little relationship experience, in fact, and he didn’t learn about hookup apps until he was a junior in college.

  • Events

    Gay Travelers Magazine: L.A. Black Pride Weekend Kicks Off Free Community Drive Festivities

    This article is reprinted with permission from Gay Travelers Magazine

    L.A. Black Pride Weekend Kicks Off Free Community Driven Festivities
    Throughout Los Angeles and West Hollywood

    The 7th Annual LA Black Pride celebration is taking place this year from Thursday, July 1 – Monday, July 5,2021. This 5-day Black Pride celebration is curated and produced by BBE Group, Founder and CEO, Brandon Anthony and his team.Last year, Anthony led the charge on organizing the ALL BLACK LIVES MATTER MARCH which brought together over 20,000 people marching down Highland Ave to La Brea to amplify black queer voices and support BLM. Anthony’s goal has always been rooted in creating safe spaces for LGBTQ and the Black queer community. This year’s 2021 LA Black Pride has evolved into a weekend of conversation, events and initiatives that are set forth to truly change the representation of the Black queer community in Los Angeles.

  • Savvy Senior

    Savvy Senior: Golf Gadgets That Can Help Older Golfers

    You can listen to my podcast interview with Savvy Senior’s Jim Miller HERE.

    By Jim Miller

    Dear Savvy Senior,

    Do you know of any golfing equipment that can help older golfers? My dad, who’s 76, loves to play golf, but arthritis in his hands has made griping the club challenging, and his fragile lower back makes stooping over to tee-up or retrieve the ball a problem too. Is there anything out there that can help?

    Golfing Buddy

    Dear Buddy,

    There are actually a wide variety of adaptive golf equipment that can help older golfers who struggle with injuries, arthritis or loss of mobility. Here are several golfing products that may help with different needs.

  • Columns,  One Thing or Another Columns

    One Thing or Another: Let’s Face It (Unmasked At Last)

    By Mark McNease

    It’s always One Thing or Another… a lighthearted look at aging, life, and the absurdities of it all.

    I took the gestures we make with our faces for granted. I failed to understand how crucial a form of communication our faces are, and how strange it would become when we no longer exposed them to each other.

    For fourteen months I did the right thing for myself and my community. I wore a mask despite finding it uncomfortable and inconvenient. It was required at my job, but I also wanted to be part of a solution when no one was sure what the solution was. This pandemic was a new experience for me, my country and the world. At least it was new insofar as it had been a hundred years since the last significant one.

    Then the vaccines arrived, like the calvary showing up in a syringe. Most people I know managed to get appointments after sharing among ourselves how difficult it was, a form of pandemic gossip and communal anxiety. We sat in chairs, we rolled up our sleeves and offered our fleshy arms, and we walked away amazed at how anticlimactic it was. I went through this for months and all I got was this lousy vaccination card.